Dad, I Need You!

As Father’s Day  approaches, we would be remiss not to honor the dads in our community. We know parenting is never easy; it does not come with a handbook. So to the dads who are determined to stay active in your daughters’ lives, we salute you! And to the dads who want to be more active, we encourage you!

Nothing can replace a father’s role in his daughter’s life. Fathers play a valuable role in the emotional and social well-being of their daughter. Research shows that girls and young women who have an unstable father figure are more liable to unplanned pregnancy, low-self esteem, high school and college drop-out, poverty, divorce and sexually promiscuous behavior.

Dads can serve as “Life Navigators” who help map and chart the course of their children’s lives. A father should never assume that the mother’s role is more important to their daughter’s development. The reality is that BOTH roles are equally significant and beneficial. We challenge every father to become the role of “Bodyguard” in your daughter’s life. A bodyguard is a person who escorts and protects someone (usually of importance) to a specific destination or location. In this case, the destination is successful womanhood and beyond!

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At Demoiselle 2 Femme, NFP our “Bodyguard” program is designed to create, heal, and strengthen father-daughter relationships. If a relationship with the biological father is not feasible, i.e. death, illness, etc., girls are encouraged to identify a father figure to serve as her Bodyguard. The program provides workshops, support group sessions, seminars, and father-daughter activities that aim to address and resolve conflict, restore estranged relationships, and teach effective communication.

Tips to be a strong “Body Guard”

›Create opportunities for ritual/tradition
›Talk about sex and relationships (even though it may not be comfortable)
›Communicate clearly the values of the family
›Help her seize opportunities
›Serve as the protective hedge of accountability for boys/men who wish to date or marry her
›Help her embrace change… it’s inevitable
›Help her find her passion through exploration
›Make her aware of your sacrifices to assist in her success! Teach them…don’t preach them.
Make time for fun!!! Have a specific just for you!
›Share your disappointments and emotions
›Celebrate her success!
›Create opportunities to teach responsibility
›Demonstrate respect
›Use the power of words! Tell her “she’s beautiful, you love her, she’s smart, etc.”
›Be willing to apologize.
›Practice what you preach… especially your religious beliefs!
›Honor your role as the Navigator in her life!

On behalf of Demoiselle 2 Femme, we say “Happy Father’s Day” to all of the dads. We salute you and encourage you to remain actively connected and committed to your children.  We leave you with a quote from President Obama’s Fatherhood Speech: “Of all the rocks upon which we build our lives, we are reminded … that family is the most important. And we are called to recognize and honor how critical every father is to that foundation. They are teachers and coaches. They are mentors and role models. They are examples of success and the men who constantly push us toward it.”

“One good father is more than one hundred schoolmasters”

~ George Herbert ~

Featured photos below are from one our Bodyguard program workshops:

It’s Time to PAUSE…for Diabetes Prevention & Awareness

Kovler Diabetes Center & Demoiselle 2 Femme, NFP presents

It”s time to PAUSE again from shopping, cleaning, hair appointments and watching t.v. to talk about … DIABETES PREVENTION & AWARENESS!

A Reality Check -According to the American Diabetes Association: -Diabetes is one of the most serious health problems that the African American community faces today. – The prevalence of both type 1* and type 2* increased among young people substantially over the past decade. – Complications such as nerve damage are already emerging in young people, raising concerns about the long-term health consequences for this and subsequent generations if the trend is not reversed.

We are calling all mothers, daughters, women and girls to “pause” from your Saturday activities and join us in our fight to reduce diabetes. The African American community is in an extreme health crisis and we must create a legacy of good health to pass on to future generations. The crisis we ignore today may be catastrophic tomorrow!

“PAUSE” is an engaging 2-hour symposium designed for women and girls ages 12 and up! You will be enlightened by personal stories from young people living with diabetes, empowered through medical information shared by health professionals and cooking demonstrations, and encouraged to take action with a toolkit that will assist you in empowering others to PAUSE for Diabetes! Information will also be provided about the services and support provided to the community by Kovler Diabetes Center.

Saturday, November 17, 2012

12 (noon) – 2 p.m.

~ FREE ADMISSION

~Knapp Center for Biomedical Discovery (KCBD) Lobby 900 E. 57th Street Chicago, IL 60637

~Lunch provided

~REGISTER NOW! (limited space of 90 attendees only!) ONLINE – WWW.DEMOISELLE2FEMME.ORG, TELEPHONE – 773.779.9371, or CONTACT FROM below